The effrontery of patriarchy
You are too angry” There is everything wrong with this statement. Telling a woman to stop being too angry is not a solution to the problems women experience because of how the patriarchy is set up.
Women are constantly reminded to tone down their anger by men who fail to understand that they are talking from a point of privilege. No one has ever policed a man’s words and told them to keep quiet. Why? PATRIARCHY!!
It is the reason why you here foolishness being peddled around in statements such as “women are meant to be seen not to be heard.” What in the patriarchal whangdoodle is that?
How and why should I not be angry yet every single time I walk out the door, I have a mini panic attack because I am scared. I am frightened of how the males will receive me out there. When I walk out of the house and hit the streets, I cannot stop thinking I am being followed. Followed by an entitled douchebag who feels entitled to my body and personal space.
The beast commonly known as the patriarchy defends such motherlovers!! Imagine walking out of your house, dressed in a long skirt, a blouse that covers up everything up to your chin, and in addition, you have on a big coat because of how the weather has been behaving.
Despite all these attempts to be ‘decent’ and I use this term loosely, there is still a sick son of a gun that will grope you, molest you, hell even rape you. Then guess what happens? You still get blamed for all he has done.
You are reminded that you should not have been alone with a man you don’t know. Yet you did not invite this person to be around you. They tell you that you should have at least responded when you were greeted because your failure to reply is what provoked the man to get violent with you. You also hear about how much of a liar you are because a man of such great reputation and stature could never do something like that. You are only trying to ruin him because he dumped you or some other absurd excuse to make him look like the victim.
Just imagine living in a world where you cannot go out by yourself, enjoy a drink you bought with your own money and go back to your house without anyone disturbing your peace.
It is almost impossible. Right from when you walk into a bar, the woes begin. Some high-end bars and restaurants even prohibit women who are unaccompanied from accessing their facilities. They are prejudiced because they have the unfortunate notion that a single woman does not have the money to afford such places.
You are supposed to be with a man. Why? Because when you are alone, you are presumably a hooker hunting for a rich man in the hotel to wine and dine you. Their male patrons do not want to look like they do not want to see such women but secretly check in with them at their hotels, so they insist that any woman without male company should not be admitted there.
Just imagine the effrontery of the male species!! When you manage to find an unbiased bar or restaurant, these ones will not stop hovering around you like vultures circling a carcass. Every two seconds a Neanderthal in a suit and dangling car keys to enticing you will approach and ask to join you because a beautiful woman like you should not be drinking alone.
Why can’t a beautiful woman sit and enjoy her drink alone? You will say no you don’t want company but what is an entitlement? They will be like, “I insist.” Insist why, mofo? Which part of NO don’t these people understand? It is only two syllables and clear enough for even a sloth to understand. These entitled turds will just not stop because they have been programmed to think women belong to them and every time they want to be with one, the answer should be AN unquestionable YES.
Fast forward to when you have managed to have your drink. You decide to leave. Guess who has been lurking around behind the shadows waiting for you to get wasted so they can exercise their ‘right’ of manhood on you. Thinking about it makes me want to gag. You said no when you were sober.
You are still saying NO when drunk but now because your guard is down, a nincompoop wants to take advantage because somehow your answer magically transformed to yes because a few shots of gin and tonic happened. Outside, as you wait for your taxi, the same person you turned down inside will want to stand with you talking nonsense, insisting on meaningless conversation incessantly asking for your
number. At this point, they have also downed a few of whatever choice of poison they were having and how they feel rather bold. An insult will be hurled, harsh words will be exchanged, a slap will land, then a punch, then full-blown war. All this because a person could not take no. You might even wake up the following morning to a blog post about a drunk girl who was beaten senseless because a man had bought her drinks then she refused to go home with me.
The lies!!! Just think of how cheap women are in the eyes of the patriarchy!! A few drinks and you should be dropping your knickers.
I cannot imagine the things women endure in this world that hates women so much. I know for a fact that every woman walking this planet has experienced the fuckery that accompanies the authority handed over to men at birth because of their genitalia. I want to live in a world where I am not terrified because a person feels entitled to my body. I want the patriarchy stomped out. I join women with a similar ambition because together we can eliminate this beast and make the world safer for ourselves and the women that will come after us. I should not even be fighting to be treated like a human being but the patriarchy happened and got us here. Now I have to struggle for my own rights and nobody will fight for me if I do not do it myself.